Taking time after a long relationship is always advised, well after you’ve taken the time to have a rebound relationship that is. But how the time should be spent or how long it should last is always debatable.
There are chicks out there that only need about three weeks to get over the only man they’ll ever love – and then looky there, they meet another man - the only one they’ll ever love.
That seems to be the trend these days, especially in young woman. They’re all looking to get hitched, and as soon as possible too! They don’t care how it looks, what it does, or how it makes her feel they just want marry it. It can treat her like shit, cheat on her and display general dickhead characteristics and yet the second it proposes all is well with the world.
In todays society young woman are expected to have a career, and want to develop it to its full potential, be feminine yet tough, know exactly what she wants out of life and yes – still wanna get married and have babies. A while ago I was having an interesting conversation with an acquaintance of mine regarding this very subject, and she commented that its every little girls dream to dress up in a white dress and get married.
Now this got me thinking, seeing as it really wasn’t one of my little fantasies while growing up. I never sat day dreaming about the day I would say YES!
Yes, I will honour and obey in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer – BLAH BLAH BLAH… I always imagined myself in my own house, with a little gold fish named Marvin sipping some delicious vino, while reading a good book or finishing off a painting. Me not the fish…
I am of the opinion that although girls of today are raised to want a career, they still dress us only in pink and give us dolls and strollers to play with while the boys get Lego and remote control cars. I think that in itself is meant to teach us how to be the one that takes care of the kids.
Which brings me back to my original point; I am of that age now, when everybody wants to know when I’m getting a boyfriend, or when I’m getting married? When people ask me whether I have a special someone and I answer no, they get that sad look on they’re faces.
I am the first to admit that I have some issues to sort out, and well let’s just say that my time after the rebound boyfriend is going on its 3rd year. But for Bob’s sake people I’ve gotten this far in my life without a BF holding my hand. I have loved someone enough to make me cry and I’m sure he won’t be the last. But since when has it become a sin to single?
Who decided this? Please ladies…
Friday
Senseless Violence
I watched the Carte Blanche special the other night (26 September 2007) about all the violent crimes and senseless murders in our country. And it shocked me to my core. The Directors comments afterwards really got me thinking.
What he basically said was the following: South Africans have a tendency to only care when it hits home. When it happens to your brother, sister or other family member. We have become so numb when it comes to violence that unless it happens to someone we care about, then we don’t even bat an eyelid.
When did all this happen, when did we lose all respect for life in general?
I like to think of myself as a very caring person – It really gets to be me to see that in last year alone we had over 17 000 murders in our little country. Although, doesn’t that sound rather impersonal when we put it like that. 17 000 murders – It de humanizes it! Now I’m sorry, but shouldn’t we rather be saying that someone’s grandmother died, or that a 4 year olds mom was raped and murdered - for the one ring she had on her finger – that wasn’t worth much to begin with.
Shouldn’t we be saying that a person, who meant just as much to someone else as my mom to me, was shot!! We live in a beautiful country with so much potential. We are a great nation, with so much to offer ourselves and the world, but I look around me and all I see is hatred and prejudice.
People living in fear, to scared to buy something because tomorrow it will be stolen. And when you are hijacked or tied up on the bed while they ransack your house, all we say is at least they didn’t kill you!!
That is such a bullshit remark, ‘at least they didn’t kill you’. What people don’t understand is that the more the criminals get to do that, the more they do Kill you, they murder your confidence, they murder your ability to trust and respect other people, they murder your future dreams to perhaps bring kids into this world.
People, I think we should stop avoiding the situation and start talking about it, stop pointing fingers to apartheid and stop thinking that criminals are defined by their skin colour! Stop pointing the finger and take an active stand! If we need to educate more, then we need educate more, if we need to create more safe havens for kids to grow up in to keep them out of the hands of gangsters, murderers or rapists then that is what we need to do.
What he basically said was the following: South Africans have a tendency to only care when it hits home. When it happens to your brother, sister or other family member. We have become so numb when it comes to violence that unless it happens to someone we care about, then we don’t even bat an eyelid.
When did all this happen, when did we lose all respect for life in general?
I like to think of myself as a very caring person – It really gets to be me to see that in last year alone we had over 17 000 murders in our little country. Although, doesn’t that sound rather impersonal when we put it like that. 17 000 murders – It de humanizes it! Now I’m sorry, but shouldn’t we rather be saying that someone’s grandmother died, or that a 4 year olds mom was raped and murdered - for the one ring she had on her finger – that wasn’t worth much to begin with.
Shouldn’t we be saying that a person, who meant just as much to someone else as my mom to me, was shot!! We live in a beautiful country with so much potential. We are a great nation, with so much to offer ourselves and the world, but I look around me and all I see is hatred and prejudice.
People living in fear, to scared to buy something because tomorrow it will be stolen. And when you are hijacked or tied up on the bed while they ransack your house, all we say is at least they didn’t kill you!!
That is such a bullshit remark, ‘at least they didn’t kill you’. What people don’t understand is that the more the criminals get to do that, the more they do Kill you, they murder your confidence, they murder your ability to trust and respect other people, they murder your future dreams to perhaps bring kids into this world.
People, I think we should stop avoiding the situation and start talking about it, stop pointing fingers to apartheid and stop thinking that criminals are defined by their skin colour! Stop pointing the finger and take an active stand! If we need to educate more, then we need educate more, if we need to create more safe havens for kids to grow up in to keep them out of the hands of gangsters, murderers or rapists then that is what we need to do.
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